Don’t Forget those who have Lost Children!

Ok, it has been seven years since my precious son suddenly ran toward me, collapsed on the ball field as I got to him and never regained consciousness. It has been seven years since who ever called 911 did not stay on the line or give proper directions. Seven years ago, I stood stunned as someone who called themselves a nurse ran up, but never did anything a nurse would do. He would be 22 in a few weeks.

The Fire Department was in sight of the Ball Park, so I know that they did not get the call or proper directions. The first responders in this area-the Fire Department are lightning fast and wonderfully trained. I know they did not get directions that we were in the ball park right below them. If they had, my son would not be dead. It was 10-12 minutes until an ambulance came from town and I was forced to watch my beautiful healthy son dying. In the ambulance , they were defibrillating him. In the hospital, they worked on him an hour.

His life was lost for negligence, my life, health, faith and future were ruined. My family will never stop suffering. Few light candles on his memorial site anymore, The mementos of his grave have slowed down. He is still dead, for nothing. I have almost died five times. Please do not forget those who have lost children. They never forget-you shouldn’t either.


15 Responses so far »

  1. 1

    howanxious said,

    It must be hard for you especially today. Take care!

  2. 2

    There are no words. My heart is with you. Paulette

  3. 4

    Judy said,

    Your beautiful son did not die for nothing; with your writing you are touching and helping other people. He will live on through you. I know you desperately wish the circumstances surrounding his death were different. Most parents that have lost a child replay everything that they could have done differently and carry the burden of not being able to save their child. That leads to going backwards when you know your son is holding you close and wanting you to move forward. All of your suffering and death of your soul are not bringing him back. You have so much love to give and I always want to give you hope that some day you will experience peace and healing. It doesn’t mean you won’t grieve your son, just that after seven years – it has been enough torture. I am crying for you.

  4. 5

    Sandra Bennett said,

    Embedded in my mind are lots of those sweet and loving stories you told me about dear Andy…I never met him in person, but felt that I knew him through our daily correspondences by email. I shall always miss the boy I never met. He remains in my heart….and, so, You always shall ! Sending love and special thoughts your way. L/S

  5. 6

    lexiesnana said,

    I can’t even imagine what you go through losing your son. My wish for you is what your boy would wish— to be happy and remember his life not the way he died. Someone I loved( my Dad) was killed in a senseless accident and especially on September 13th I make an effort to celebrate what he gave to his family, laughter, happiness, and most of all love. I refuse to let that person that ran the stop sign take away any more.
    I was told there is no time table for grief so do what you have to and know that I wish you well and share in your sorrow because I know you are hurting.

  6. 7

    SwittersB said,

    Bless you…Bless him always!

  7. 8

    Lucid Gypsy said,

    Such a tragic loss.

  8. 9

    They whoever ‘they’ might be have dust up their arse when they say it gets better. It does not we just get better at hiding it (our grief) from others. Today is my angels birthday. I offer you hugs and love as if it will ease your pain Ha nothing really does.

  9. 10

    bert0001 said,

    I will light a candle today

  10. 11

    Marcy said,

    I’m so sorry. Thank you for this important reminder.

  11. 12

    My heart goes out to you, Brenda.

  12. 13

    nutsfortreasure said,

    You know we all feel your pain Brenda
    You take care of yourself and the others still with you and someday I do not know when you will find a little peace I pray, HUGS

  13. 14

    lauralistar said,

    Oh my goodness, I just read this and I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to imagine. You are very brave for speaking about it on here and you’re right, it does bring awareness. We should never forget. God bless you.

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    Lindy Lee said,

    Clicking the “Like” button, not because I like the pain you write about, but because I like the poignant, descriptive manner in which you write about that pain…

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